If there is another thing that prevents people from communicating well is the other person’s predictability. If we have observed and known and at some point been scalded at how the other person reacts to certain issues we can already role-play how a conversation with the person would go. Convinced that that is how it is going to be and also knowing the input would not be new or something we would not like to hear, we then decide the person is not the one we are actually looking for to talk to.

Intentional relationships however seeks out to be interested anyway. The goal is to make the person feel their thoughts matter and that they have at least a space of being considered. Intentional friendships seek to be considerate outwards.

Just a thought…